By Camille Crisostomo
“Love is a
battlefield.” How popular this quotation can get. Well, for some people getting
into a relationship is like a feeling of anxiety that comes with going to war.
Like a commander, you strategize and theorize, making plans not knowing what
might happen at the end of the day. You must have a strong attack and even a
stronger defense. Like a fearless
soldier, you execute every possible way to prepare for the unexpected along
with the possibility of losing, a 50/50 chance that the love you give will also
be the love you receive. And then you realized you’ve become a prisoner of
someone else’s war.
Well the
beginning, middle and end of every relationship is about establishing power.
It’s not always about the butterflies in the stomach that come with it. It’s
always the obsession with the chase as well as the kill. It’s always who end up
caring more or less. You thought you’ve come prepared knowing you’ve already
fought other battles and are confident with this one. However, every battle is
different as well as the opponent. Yet, you enter the battlefield still feeling
optimistic that with just a little chance maybe you’ll end up winning this one.
Until you lose.
Unfortunately, no
matter how strong your strategy or tactic is, you end up falling, losing. You
lost the game of establishing power. You’re the one who cared more and now
you’re the person’s prisoner because they say love is a war, it’s whoever cares
less that wins. Is that really so?
Being the person
who cares less, I beg to disagree. We don’t win the game of love (if any party
actually wins) by caring less when in fact we become less human. People think
that it is the fact that you don’t care at all; on the contrary, it’s the fear
of caring too much. I’ve been convinced that caring too much carries with it
the potential damage one can get. I’ve seen a lot of people getting their hearts
broken because of such fact and it’s really depressing and devastating and
oftentimes a really long journey to being okay again.
But the thing is
being the person who cares more – I think they are on the right side of things
knowing that the human heart is very resilient especially when it’s young. When
you’re the one who cares less, or apparently who doesn’t care at all, you will
always convince yourself that you’re fine even when you’re not. What people
fail to realize about persons who care less or act like they care less is that
they are usually the ones who ends up being hurt the most. It is just human
nature to want love and be taken care of and do the same. To deny that is
simply to deny one’s existence and being the one who cares less doesn’t make
one wiser or stronger or even happier. It just makes you feel, less and less.
When it’s all said
and done, at the end of the day people need a companion. Whether it’s a
romantic partner, a good friend, or a beloved family member – everybody needs
one. And if you start acting like you don’t care at all people will end up
believing you. If you feel being the person who loves and cares more well, good
for you because the opposite is actually the worse. Try to seek balance in between
two extremes and when it comes to love, the winner will always be the one who’s
courageous enough to tell somebody how they feel and act that they do care
because they are the ones who love without any trace of regret in the end.
Eventually,
someone will break down the walls that you’ve put up because you’re too afraid
to love – too afraid to care. But remember, life is too short to build walls
and people are too busy and maybe when that person comes you’ll have the
courage to tell them how you really feel. But if you keep telling yourself that
you don’t really care, you’ll start believing yourself, missing the chance to
see the person for you. So don’t be afraid to care more. Yes, you’ll get hurt
but that’s love isn’t it?
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