Single is not a status

By: Annie Gean T.  Talampas

Teenagers nowadays seem to be aggressive and obsessed when it comes to love. Love in the sense of having a boyfriend or a girlfriend, having someone to be with and having someone as a companion and comes to worst as a person whom can they depend their life already, with that in the end they tend to get hurt if that someone already got away. It seems like they cannot be independent on their own and won’t be able to enjoy life if they stay single. Some would feel jealous when they see other couples being sweet.

It is really a joy if there would be someone who can stay with you no matter what, anyone in this world believes that there will be someone that fate will give them, but one thing should be remembered and for sure that in the end of the day all we have is ourselves.

As some people say, we don’t need anyone to be happy, all we have to do is love ourselves and make the most out of the things we should do everyday. Don’t be too hard on yourself about being alone, although it is natural for people to desire what they don’t have. However, you should put everything into perspective and appreciate what you have and what you can have and its benefits while you’re young. So are some points to consider why living single and free is still happy and awesome:

    

Being able to know yourself more

Did you ever feel like missing the old you? Those times when the only thing you have to think is about surviving that day with you and yourself alone. We can be so hard on ourselves, and maybe a big part of that is because spending time alone with you alone just seems so hard. Going to a fast food alone, taking long walks, and doing a little exploring with no one to be with can seem intimidating, even not worth it. But when you actually get to the point where your own silent company is enough to have a great time, and you don’t need ; even if you like ; the crowds and other voices that you ear can listen, life becomes infinitely more enjoyable. And more importantly, when you do date someone, it won’t be because you need to fill some feeling of loneliness and craving for something, because you can’t stand to just be alone with yourself.

You can do whatever you want.

All you have to do is focus on yourself. No restrictions, no limitations all you have to care is about what is happening to you right now without thinking of the time and what’s happening to you.

Life is beautiful. Even if you’re single, you still have so much to appreciate.

              “Being single is not the end of the world,” we should always remember. There are other problems that needs more solution and attention than being single; hunger and homelessness, and some economic crisis that the world is facing. Having a broken heart is not an excuse for isolating yourself, you are still standing, you are still breathing, and there are so many possibilities in life that would come in time, all you have to do is to appreciate the little things that surrounds you.

      

You're not alone when you're single, you can lean on to your family and good friends.

Family will be always our source, our friend and our lover, for short family is an all in one package that we have even after we have lost someone because family will be always there no matter what. Spending time with them give relaxation and comfort.

You can spend your time with you friends without being guilty. Friends, one thing is for sure, we can always share our joy and pain with them. We can always depend on our real friends without feeling the slightest bit of guilt, so as to being single; you don’t have to feel lonely because of them.

A healthier social life

Isn't it annoying when you have a friend that will ditch you when you already       have a plan for that one more important person that she/he need to be with? It turns out you being unimportant and not time worthy. It is pretty obvious that man and woman tend you spend lesser time with their friends, family and social life than during the times of their single hood. So for now, no time for ditching time for socializing!

Change can sometimes be good

Anyone is afraid of change especially if we already become used to be with one person that seem to change you everyday life. Adaptation takes time, yet all you have to do is to think of all the possibilities; meeting new people, going to new places, and some other activities that can change you and your life. Sometimes change is the best thing for us, as it opens enlighten us with the brighter side of life that we may live rather than the past life.

Life knows how to balance; if may be stormy not but is doesn't mean it will rain forever

Everything in life is a process. When something dramatic and fast hits us, it will take time to process it and start over. As the song rainbow stated “there will be always a rainbow after the rain.” The new start depends on you. Being single you still have a lot to learn, understand, and explore. Sometimes you still need to be reminded to be grateful for what you have.

As we all know, these words are easier said than living with it. So I hold onto one important idea : Change comes from within. You alone have to decide if you want that change, if that change would be for the better or worsen life. It isn’t enough to wait for that change but instead challenge yourself to be changed.

According to a quote “Single is not a status”. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others. It doesn’t literally mean to seclude yourself from the company of other it just mean to place yourself on the realistic side of life that we should be better not bitter!