Love. Love is just a four-letter
word yet it dominates each one of us. That's the strange power of love. It can
make you happy, alive and burning (without actually burning) or it can hurt you
to the extent of killing you (not literally though), and knock you down in a
dark, lonely, and miserable road. Ironic, isn't it? So, how can you tell that
the way you feel right now is love?
Some of us, or should I say, most
of us, misinterpret infatuation for love and love for infatuation. People are
dithering with what they are feeling and that make them risk takers when it
comes to love. They don't know when to assume right over a person or when to
just stay a friend.
Infatuation is the way people feel
wherein they think that they are in love when actually it is just a deep lust
or like for another person. It is often called having a crush on someone. It is
the state of appreciating someone, of letting someone be your inspiration in
all your endeavors. In infatuation, all you feel is happiness and the feeling
of “kinikilig” that makes you want to scream at the top of your lungs. Just the
thought of seeing that person, even from afar, can complete your day.
Butterflies fluttering in your stomach, shivers running down your spine, what
else? That's what infatuation can do. It usually lasts for two to six months
and sometimes even just for a couple of days. In infatuation, you only see the
best part and sides of a person. You think of that person as someone close to
being perfect, as someone with almost no flaws at all. It is that strong
feeling of being attached to someone to the extent that you became foolish and
you let your world revolve around that one person.
Can infatuation become
love?
Yes.
With conviction, I say yes.
Have you tried waking
up one morning and realized that all his flaws and imperfections don't matter
anymore?
Bad breath in the morning, morning
glory on his eyes, messy hair, uncool fashion statement, heavy weight, a person
who eats lavishly, hard headed, weird laugh, and many more characteristics that
can normally turn you off, it don't matter anymore. What matters most is that
you accept that person. He might have flaws yet you see him as flawless. He
might have shortcomings yet you consider these as something that make him even
more lovable. He might be imperfect yet every inch of him is perfect to you.
Have you ever done
things that you don't normally do but for him you did anyway?
At first, you tell yourself that
you are not going to change for him; there is absolutely no way that you are
going to do things that isn’t innate to you. Yet, what happened? Cutting
classes, spending too much load for him, making it possible to be with him no
matter how busy your schedule is, and giving him chances whenever he keeps on
doing things that you don't really like, these are just a few of the things
that you never imagined yourself doing, especially not for someone who is not related
to you.
Have you ever
sacrificed a lot (yes, a lot!) for your relationship? For him?
Instead of giving yourself some
rest, you go there and be with him because a day without him can make you weak
and vulnerable. You were not spending too much for yourself just to buy him
something on his birthday. Even the most important thing in your life, you gave
it to him thinking and believing that he is “The One”.
Have you ever
swallowed you pride just so you could be okay again?
This happens whenever you are
quarrelling and you know that it was even his fault yet he can’t see it that
way, he can't understand your point. You ended up the one apologizing for it
just because you want the problem to end, instead of reaching the point that
you both want “it” to end. Forgiving him even when he isn’t sorry for it, even
when he isn’t asking for it; forgiving him even though he already did it a
couple of times; forgiving him for all the promises that he has broken and that
left you broken too; you do these just so you could be okay again.
Have you ever cried a
thousand buckets of tears because of him?
Yes? Yes. He told you that “ A
woman's tears is worth a man's thousands sacrifice”, but he kept on making you
cry anyway (waking up in the morning with the worst eyes you could ever have
and skipping meals because you can't go out and be seen in that situation). You
would rather prefer to be alone and cry the whole day until the pain becomes
bearable.
Have you experienced these kinds of
situations? If yes, then you have passed the infatuation limit. You are in love
or maybe, was in love. It doesn’t matter when you experience love though; the
truth still is that you will never be that same old person again. You may have
become better, like a diamond who was shaped by another; or you may have become
someone bitter and cannot let go of the past, it’s your choice. Choosing him
and loving him was your choice anyway.
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